Albert Einstein once said that gravity is not responsible for people falling in love. The genius sure is right because things that fall in with gravity do not fall out of it. One day you’re madly in love with each other, and the next, you ruin each other’s day simply by being in the same room. People fall out of love for many reasons, from such personality-driven causes as individual differences, lack of psychological and emotional maturity, and financial incapacity; to unexpected events like finding a new love in someone else’s arms.
As marriage is highly upheld and governed by law, however, ending your ties and responsibility to your spouse will not be as easy as when you do it with a non-marital partner. Divorce law is so complex that you would need competent family lawyers to guide you through it. Attorney Alex Benedict suggests you proceed with caution, as divorce is a life-changing decision.
Bear in mind that divorce can be traumatic to your children. No matter how tempting it is to catapult hurtful remarks against your spouse in the heat of discussion, remember that your words can have a lasting effect on them. Unless there’s a history of violence or neglect, your children will need to continue their relationship with your spouse, so as much as possible, refrain from bad-mouthing him/her. Psychology principles say that if you speak negatively against another person, the words that come out of your mouth sticks to their perception of you.
When it comes to child custody, the court, generally, will allow you to create your parenting schedule, with the help of lawyers like Alex L. Benedict, Esq. However, if you and your spouse can’t come to an agreement, the court will make the decision for the child’s welfare. Factors such as health, safety, and nature and length of contact with each of you will be considered. If you do request a move-away, you have to prove that it’s for the child’s best interest.
You should also consider the negative consequences of a full-blown court battle on your family’s assets—an equally important issue of dispute. Since California is a community property state, all properties (excluding those acquired by inheritance or bequest) such as your home, income, and other personal properties, as well as debts incurred during the marriage, will be divided equally between the two of you. Attorney Alex Benedict reminds that while you should be ready to go to Court if necessary to protect your interests, first consider an amicable and less costly out-of-court settlement.
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